Anger Secrets

byAlastair Duhs

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The Anger Secrets podcast is a weekly show that covers everything you need to know about anger management. Hosted by Anger Expert Alastair Duhs, this podcast offers valuable tips, techniques and strategies for controlling your anger, mastering your emotions and creating calmer, happier and more loving relationships. The Anger Secrets podcast is perfect for anyone who is looking for proven tools and techniques to control their anger and create calmer, happier and more respectful relationships with those they love. If you're ready to learn how to control your anger and live the calmer, happy and more respectful life you want...

Episodes(40 episodes)

184 - Why Do I Always Say The Wrong Thing When My Partner Is Upset?

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through four simple but powerful steps to help you say the right thing when your partner is upset - whether you tend to jump straight to fixing, go quiet or say something that somehow makes things worse. These are practical, learnable skills that work even when emotions are running high.Rather than offering generic advice, Alastair gets to the heart of why these moments go wrong so often: not because you don't care...

Published: May 10, 2026Duration: 12m 17s

183 - You Can Control Your Anger Faster Than You Think

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through the three tools that actually create lasting change for people who struggle with anger. Whether you've tried to change before and slipped back, or you've started to believe that this is just who you are, this episode explains exactly why that happens and what a different approach looks like.Rather than offering surface-level fixes, Alastair lays out the three layers of real anger management. From catching it early, to changing the thinking that drives...

Published: May 3, 2026Duration: 11m 42s

182 - 3 Steps to Improve Your Relationship Starting Today

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three practical steps to help you improve your relationship starting today. Whether the arguments have become more frequent, the conversations that matter have quietly stopped or there's just a low-level tension that never fully goes away, this episode explains exactly what's getting in the way and what to do about it.Rather than offering generic communication tips, Alastair gets to the root of what most struggling relationships are actually missing, and walks through three specific...

Published: Apr 26, 2026Duration: 11m 45s

181 - Feeling Anger Rising? These 3 Exercises Can Stop It in Its Tracks

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three practical mindfulness tools you can reach for the moment you feel anger starting to build. Whether it's a comment that lands wrong, a situation that spirals or just one too many things going sideways in a single day, these tools work when things are heating up, not just when everything is already calm.Rather than offering a generic "take a deep breath" and leaving it there, Alastair explains exactly how each tool works, why...

Published: Apr 19, 2026Duration: 11m 46s

180 - Face-to-Face vs Online Anger Management - Which One Actually Works?

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs gives an honest, straight comparison of face-to-face and online anger management programs. Whether you've been Googling your options, looked at a few programs or just aren't sure where to start, this episode cuts through the confusion and helps you make a decision that actually moves you forward.Rather than giving a vague "it depends" answer, Alastair draws on 30 years of running both formats to tell you clearly which works better for most people and why. And...

Published: Apr 12, 2026Duration: 10m 30s

179 - Why Anger Management Doesn't Work - And What To Do Instead

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through seven of the most common anger management mistakes that keep people stuck, even when they're genuinely trying to change. Whether you've read all the books, tried breathing exercises or sat through a course or two, this episode explains why the effort often doesn't stick and what to do differently starting today.Rather than offering surface-level fixes, Alastair goes deeper - looking at the root causes of why anger keeps coming back and giving you...

Published: Apr 5, 2026Duration: 14m 56s

178 - 7 Signs You Have an Anger Problem - And What to Do

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through seven signs that anger may be a real problem in your life - and what you can do about it. Whether it's a short fuse, constant irritability or a partner who walks on eggshells around you, these signs are worth taking seriously. And the good news is that recognising them is the first step toward change.This episode is for anyone who suspects their anger is affecting their relationships, their wellbeing or the people...

Published: Mar 29, 2026Duration: 10m 28s

177 - Fiona's Story: Controlling What She Could Change

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs talks with Fiona - a small business owner and mother who grew up surrounded by family violence and spent years struggling with anger in her marriage. Just seven weeks into the Complete Anger Management System, Fiona has already made remarkable progress. Her husband has noticed. She has noticed. And the insight that changed everything for her was surprisingly simple.If you've ever felt stuck in patterns that stretch back to your childhood, Fiona's story will show...

Published: Mar 22, 2026Duration: 13m 44s

176 - 5 Ways to Handle Someone Else's Anger

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares five practical ways to respond when someone else's anger is directed at you. Whether it's a partner who explodes, a colleague who unloads or a family member who pushes your buttons, how you respond in those moments matters more than you might think.Rather than fighting back or shutting down, Alastair explains how staying calm, using empathy and setting clear boundaries can completely change the dynamic, without accepting blame or tolerating abuse.Key...

Published: Mar 15, 2026Duration: 10m 31s

175 - Why You Keep Losing Your Temper - And How to Stop

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three practical steps to help you control your anger before it takes over. If you've ever said something you regret in the heat of the moment, or felt like your anger erupts before you even realise what's happening, this episode explains exactly why that happens and what you can do about it starting today.Rather than offering generic advice like "count to ten" or "take a deep breath," Alastair breaks down the real mechanics of...

Published: Mar 8, 2026Duration: 9m 58s

174 - How to Discipline Your Kids Without Losing Control

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever promised yourself you’d stay calm with your kids only to find yourself yelling anyway when your patience runs out? You try the usual parenting tips, counting to ten or staying positive, but in the moment none of it seems to work.In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why most discipline advice fails when emotions are already high, and what actually works instead. You’ll learn how your internal emotional state play...

Published: Mar 1, 2026Duration: 11m 47s

173 - How One Man Broke The Anger Cycle: Matthew's Story

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever felt like small frustrations slowly build up until suddenly you’re snapping at the person you care about most? You tell yourself you’ll do better next time, but the same pattern keeps repeating, leaving you feeling frustrated, guilty or stuck.In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with Matthew, a husband who found himself caught in a cycle of escalating arguments that were damaging trust in his relationship. Although he didn’t see himsel...

Published: Feb 22, 2026Duration: 17m 23s

172 - The One Word That Stops Anger In Its Tracks

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs introduces a simple but powerful framework designed to help you interrupt anger before it turns into an explosion. Instead of trying to calm down after an outburst has already started, you’ll learn how to recognise the early warning signs of anger and use a practical four-step process to change what happens next.If you’ve ever felt like anger takes over too quickly, or that you remember coping strategies only after it’s too late, this e...

Published: Feb 15, 2026Duration: 9m 30s

171 - Why Your Partner Never Hears What You're Trying to Say

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever had an argument that started over something small? The dishes, a tone of voice or being late, and somehow ended with both of you feeling hurt, defensive and completely misunderstood?In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why most relationship conflict isn’t caused by big problems. It’s caused by small moments where listening breaks down, emotions rise and conversations spiral out of control before either person realises what’s happening.You’ll...

Published: Feb 8, 2026Duration: 12m 30s

170 - Understanding Your Anger Triggers

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever gone from calm to furious in a matter of seconds, and only afterwards wondered, “Where did that come from?”In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why anger rarely comes out of nowhere. Instead, it’s usually triggered by long-standing patterns that quietly shape how you react in relationships, at work and under stress.You’ll learn what anger triggers really are, where they come from, and why recognising them early gives you the...

Published: Feb 1, 2026Duration: 11m 10s

169 - Is Your Anger Healthy or Harmful?

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Is anger always a bad thing? Or are there times when feeling angry actually makes sense?In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why anger itself isn’t the problem. The real damage happens when anger is either suppressed or expressed in ways that hurt relationships.You’ll learn what healthy anger really looks like, how it differs from destructive anger and how to express anger in a way that protects trust, communication and emotional safe...

Published: Jan 25, 2026Duration: 10m 0s

168 - The Small Moments That Are Quietly Destroying Your Relationship

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Why is it that one small comment can turn into a full-blown argument in some relationships, while in others, it barely causes a ripple?In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains why relationships don’t usually break down because of the big arguments. They unravel through hundreds of small moments that slowly erode trust, safety and goodwill.You’ll learn a powerful concept that explains why the same words can feel harmless one day and deep...

Published: Jan 18, 2026Duration: 9m 32s

167 - Five Steps to Rebuild a Relationship After Separation

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What do you do when the person you love no longer wants to be with you, and anger, fear or past behaviour has broken trust?In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks directly to those facing one of the hardest moments in a relationship: separation caused by anger issues. With honesty and realism, he explains why rebuilding trust takes time, and outlines a clear, step-by-step path forward for those who are genuinely committed to change....

Published: Jan 11, 2026Duration: 11m 50s

166 - How to Handle Anger in Your Relationship

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever gone to bed replaying an argument over and over in your mind, wishing you’d said things differently, wishing you’d stayed calmer or wishing the damage hadn’t been done?If so, you’re not alone. And more importantly, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad partner or a bad person. It means something inside you is trying to tell you something, and learning how to listen to that signal can change everything.In this episode of The Anger...

Published: Jan 4, 2026Duration: 10m 34s

165 - The 60-Second Window That Could Save Your Relationship

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.You're in the middle of an argument and you know where it's headed. But what if you could change the outcome before things spiral out of control?In this essential episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals how to recognise the signs of escalating conflict and use simple, proven repair techniques to stop fights before they start and strengthen your relationship instead.Key Takeaways:-Every argument offers a choice: escalate the fight or repair the connection.-The first...

Published: Dec 28, 2025Duration: 8m 27s

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